A foggy reflection

To be honest, I think I wasn't fully clued in this past class. My head cold left me in a fog, and I feel like I wasn't fully there. The part that stuck out to me the most was Loretta's feelings on ignoring behavior in comparison to mine. Where Loretta struggled to get behind the idea, to me, it seemed second nature. As I thought about it, there seems to be an interesting self-efficacy connection. To ignore behavior in hopes of change you genuinely have to believe that you can succeed, that it will work, that you can do this. One of the struggles of ignoring a behavior is that often times people do not have the self-efficacy to do nothing. It is in many ways against our nature to do nothing when we want to see change, or people just do not believe that doing nothing will work or that they can physically ignore something. So I feel that the person "training" so to speak must feel efficacious about their methods, trust in the idea that ignoring works, and believe that they can successfully ignore a behavior for an extended amount of time. I think ignoring behaviors fails, not because the idea behind it is wrong, but because people do not believe in their ability to use the method. I have always felt a strong connection to the statement "You cannot change someone else's behavior, you can only change yours and hope they respond." However, believing in that statement, and believing in your ability to do that, are very different things.